"My beautiful, big, black, bushy vulva."

(CW: S•xual violence, trauma)

"Everyone, say hi to my vulva. I’ve got dark labia and my inner labia are longer than my outer. I’ve also got luscious pubes when untrimmed. Most of the porn I watched when younger never showed vulvas like mine – they were mostly pink, petite, and plucked. Mine is black, big, and bushy.

My journey with my vulva has been a tough one.

In my teen years, I was worried about my labia length and google told me I had frequently masturbated my way to long labia (though now I know this is not true)

In my early 20s, I started dating and so ensued shame, sexual violence and infections (TL;DR fuck the patriarchy).

I’ve used an Instagram filter to “lighten” my vulva before sending it when somebody asked me for a nude. (the Jaipur filter).

I’ve trimmed my pubes to please a guy who told me BS about how my pubes are “interfering with his penis during sex”.

I’ve had thrush, bacterial vaginosis, friction rashes, and feared having STIs. And I’ve had it with all of this. 

I fiercely love myself now. I love my hairy brown body, my dark vulva, and nobody gets to be near me unless they respect me as much as I do myself.

Anyway, here’s presenting to you my beautiful, big, black, bushy vulva."

– I, 29 years old, India (she/her)