"She looks like 1984 Freddy Mercury!"

Look upon my vag ye mighty and despair! Isn’t she marvelous? Isn’t she full and beautiful? I say it loudly and to as many people as I can, I love my vulva and she loves me back, it’s the best relationship I’ve had yet! Growing up I remember watching a sort of medical reality show where a teenage girl was worried that her labia were too long, and the TV doctor recommended she have them trimmed down. I went to my own doctor in tears, imagining that I was going to have to undergo surgery to get rid of what I thought were abnormal labia. My doctor rolled her eyes, muttered ‘that bloody TV show’ and sent me home, after telling me that everyone is different and that I was perfectly normal. Over the years I’ve shaved all my pubic hair off, left a little bit, left a lot, and what I’ve done with my pubic hair has often been in response to what I thought I should look like for others. But without a partner currently I have been luxuriating in growing a full bush, delighting in this handful of darkness full of stars between my legs. It’s like I’ve got a guinea pig down there, keeping my vulva safe and warm. When the mood takes me, I might shave it off or create a shape. But it will be for me, because she is all mine and I will keep her safe.

Addition after receiving the portrait: Oh my GOD this is the BEST thing I've EVER SEEN in my LIFE!!!!! I love it, I love it, I love it!!!! She looks like 1984 Freddy Mercury! You know in that book/play The Vagina Monologues they had a section where they ask women what their vaginas would wear if they could get dressed up? I always thought that mine would wear Freddy Mercury's stage outfits on alternate days. Like a good yellow biker jacket, 1986 Wembley stadium on Mondays, a sweet Top of the Pops 1973 chainmail vest on Thursdays, and an 'I want to break free' miniskirt and heels on Fridays. And this is just further confirmation that I was right!!!”

– H, 29 years old, Denmark (she/her)

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