"LOVE your labia – they’re like ribbons to the beautiful gift of your vulva"

“Growing up, I never gave any attention to my vulva. In all honesty, I thought all vulvas looked the same – I was never educated about all the beautiful different shapes and sizes they could have. It wasn’t until I dated my first boyfriend that I started becoming self-conscious – listening to his friends talk badly about certain types of vulvas and so on. I remember looking in the mirror and realizing that I would be considered as someone with that type of vulva. I felt hurt and embarrassed by their comments. After that, it took me years and years to fully love my vulva – I even considered labiaplasty for a long time.

My struggles and vulnerabilities surfaced over the years when I dated guys and wondered if they were grossed out by my labia, and if they thought about my vulva the way the boys in high school did. 

As I grew older, I began to appreciate my vulva and all of her beauty. It took me a while – with a lot of ups and downs – but now, I’m finally there. It wasn’t until I was 26 that I realized I truly loved my vulva – a guy I was seeing told me my labia were beautiful, and I responded: “Thank you, it’s true!”

My current boyfriend absolutely loves my vulva and my long, luscious labia – he gives them all the attention they deserve. So, LOVE your labia – they’re like ribbons to the beautiful gift of your vulva!”

– M, 27 years old, USA (she/her)