"Does the carpet match the drapes?"

“My journey with my pubic hair started before I even had any. Being a natural redhead I was asked “does the carpet match the drapes?” from people older than me. I didn’t understand what they were asking and why they were laughing each time it was asked.

Fast forward I met my first partner. Naturally they asked the same question. I didn’t know what to do. I was used to watching adult films and they took everything off. So naturally I did the same. Razor burn, ingrown hairs... I struggled for so long with my pubic hair and trying to do “what I should.”

I never really told anyone the answer to that question until I was comfortable. Why should I? but I did because I like making things like this normal. I want people to be comfortable with who they are and their differences.

I started my waxing career 10 years ago. I learned so much and fell in love with women. In the sense that we are all unique, strong, sensitive and most of us are shy about our vulva. I was asked so many times if “I should take it all off?” I told them it’s 100% up to you, not anyone else. That half of the women I wax leave hair and the rest remove it all. I let them know I like to leave hair because I’m more comfortable, and to make them laugh… I told them it was bright orange.”

– D, 32 years old, USA (she/her)