When I was a child I never gave much though to my vulva. It was just another part of my body like my hands, my mouth or my eyes. It was down there and it was fine! As I grew older my vulva changed. Although my inner labia became longer I never thought I had an ugly vulva.
At the age of 15 I had my first sexual experience and after that I had a lot of sexual partners, both men and women. Interestingly, just one person told me she didn’t like my long inner labia: another woman. I always thought that women were more empathic that men, but apparently not at all. When I talk with my best friends (women too) about how vulvas should look they often have a strong opinion about appearance. This always makes me a bit sad.
I used to have a small clitoris, but once I took hormones for a sport competition it started growing. Since that moment I don’t like how my vulva looks. I feel very insecure about it. I’m afraid people will not like my clit and inner labia. Now I have a boyfriend and he loves it, but I always think about what will happen if I get single... I'll probably feel ashamed and worried about my vulva.
Before finding your beautiful project I was seriously considering labiaplasty and clitoral hood surgery, but you remind us we all have a perfectly normal and lovely vulva. Thank you!”
D. - 35 years old