At age 13, I found myself comparing my vulva to those of pornstars. I had never had sex before and I just felt something was wrong with me. At age 14, I went to my doctor and told her of my concerns and of wanting a labiaplasty surgical procedure. I even contemplated cutting them off myself for one stupid moment. She assured me I was so normal. I felt better after the visit, but my insecurities persisted. I had some friends as a teenager that always discussed their "perfect vaginas" nonchalantly and would even criticize vulvas that didn't look like theirs. When I had sex for the first time at age 16, I was so insecure, but I was ready to have sex. Later on in my relationship, my boyfriend said to me, "Your vagina doesn't look like a pornstar's vagina." Although I still have days of insecurities, as I'm sure most of us do, it's been about two years since I have "fallen in love" with my vulva as she is. It was a journey, indeed. I started feeling empowered and more connected with my vulva first when I showed her to my previous partner. And I mean really showed her. Although my partner was a great lover, I wanted him to really learn the parts of my vulva by me physically pointing to everything and putting a label on it. I also told him what feels good, what doesn't, and what parts are the most sensitive; I thought this vulnerability would help me feel more comfortable. It totally did! And he loved every part of it!"
L. - 22 years old