I’ve never had given thought on the looks of my vulva until I started my sex life. How it looked, it’s color or size and shape were something I never thought about, just like my arms. I was sure everyone has a different one but I was certain everyone knew this, and it didn’t matter. But I soon would find out that it did to men.
After my first time having sex my -the!- boyfriend said “I had a porn star vagina” and I didn’t know what hat meant. So for he first time I looked up porn. Besides being absolutely horrified at the titles and images, I found out there’s only one type of vulva that makes into porn: a teenagers. Hairless, pink and tiny. And that realization added up to the conditioning to please men I had growing up as a girl and made me obsess over it. I got exponentially worried as I got through puberty because it was changing, getting further and further from what was “ideal”. I believe that ideal was the rule and that I was weird looking.
Today I know this not to be true, after sexual encounters with women I started to see that porn isn’t reality, and abandoned my addiction, and started to love myself. This gallery is one of the most beautiful and most honest portrayals of vulvas I’ve ever seen, and the accompanying stories make it even better.
I wish I had this when younger, I wish I could’ve avoided years of self hate and self loathing that came with the not knowing what was actually normal: diversity.
Thank you so much for existing Vulva Gallery, I hope it helps generations to come to be comfortable with their own bodies ❤️
J. - 24 years old